The longer I stay in unhealthy relationships, the more I lose myself. Eventually, my reactions become my identity; the way I define my character. My explosive actions and illogical statements in response to opposing views or unfavorable situations overshadows who I really am. 

Differentiation is about holding onto yourself despite your emotional state; being aware of your emotions while taking the time to fully understand why or what you are feeling, enabling yourself to react to a situation properly while regulating the emotions you feel in a positive way.