Codependent Patterns

This past week we have focused on how to maintain emotional differentiation within our relationships, and how to hold onto ourselves without compromising our own integrity. Most of the time I have this tendency to withdraw and have difficulty separating myself from taking things personally. I think another important component is having the awareness of my own strengths, defects, fears, insecurities, and projections and having the willingness to be honest about them. Knowing who I am, what my values are, and what is important to me and being able to assertively communicate that within my relationships by setting boundaries and expressing how I feel without needing to be rescued by the other person, or in turn try to rescue them from what they are feeling. Most of my relationships have been based around codependency and I am realizing that I need to break this pattern because it doesn’t give me or the other person the freedom to be ourselves, and truly love and accept one another without having any sort of strings attached.